If Sex was an App

If Sex was an app, wouldn’t we all be going out there to get the newest apparatus to download it onto? We wouldn’t just want the app but we would want the best experience of it-so most likely we’re going to download that app on our biggest device- the laptop. I mean, that’s where it happens right? Our lap top?? (Bad pun, I know).  But seriously, it’s not a hand held device that is going to satisfy the opportunities this app will create.

We would need to know we had the latest iOS that had the capability to upgrade that baby as soon as we needed to. We wouldn’t short cut the processes we needed to take in order to make sure we had the latest version, the fastest access, the best features.
We would put that baby in our “favourites” folder and have it on a special password so no one was able to see what we were getting up to on that app: I mean, that’s how we want sex right?  Convenient, anonymous and discreet.


Like all the other apps on our phone, this app would start consuming our thoughts- while we were at work, having coffee with our friends, or even while we were taking the kids to the park…that app would be at the forefront of our mind MOST of our conscious and potentially our unconscious state.  It would keep us questioning our addictive tendencies…yet we continue to throw those thoughts into the trash folder of our mind.
Can you imagine all the features that would exist on that app? The other players we would invite, the scenery we could pop into the background, and the…well, you can use your imagination here. This app would be most frequently used of all the apps on our phone or mobile device, I’m sure.

It would top Facebook or social media app downloads by far, because while we all have an innate desire for connection like Facebook offers, we also have an innate desire for intimacy.

The thing is that sex isn’t like an app on a laptop but, it’s more like a component within the hard drive that keeps it running. We were born with a sex drive. We don’t need an app- we’ve already got one inbuilt into our own operating system – it’s called the reproductive system. It’s as real as the digestive system you need to process the food you eat and the limbic system that causes your heart to pump blood around your body. That baby is real! You don’t even need to download it, upgrade it, search for it… it’s already found you out!!
You just need to learn how to operate it and understand why it was installed by your Creator in the first place.

It’s not like any other component of your hard drive- it’s the one that opens up complete access to your very soul.

See we know the value of sex and I’m pretty sure we understand the importance it plays in every day life (none of us would even be alive if it wasn’t for it). Little attention do we pay, however, when it comes to protecting it from the many virus’s that can destroy the effectiveness it was created for – the procreation, the intimacy, the covenant.

He who sins sexually, sins against his own soul.  1 Cor 6:18b

That word sin implies that it’s something that can be misused and necessitates that we take precautions.  In other words, the way you apply that sexual desire affects the operating system of your soul.

It’s not just an app.

It’s not just an act.

It’s a spiritual connection.

1. an immoral act considered to be a transgression against divine law.

I don’t know what you’re like with virus protection on your computer but I’m pretty bad. I slack off when it’s time to upgrade the package I got for free online – it takes time and it takes effort. But the results are laptops and memories that have been completely lost for all eternity.

I’m not talking safe sex here people- I’m talking safe souls- because at the end of the day, (or the night) it’s your soul that’s getting tethered to the soul of another in the process of this amazing act. The act that was created for a marriage union- a tethering of two souls that strengthens the existence of one: a Divine synergy.

 1. the interaction or cooperation of two or more organisations, substances, or other agents to produce a combined effect greater than the sum of their separate effects.

Untamed desires that counteract the moral, divine law that’s set up to give you abundant life, seem like fun until the consequences start to pop up on the screen of our souls. Oh, those pop up screens drive me crazy!  They’re unrelenting and if you don’t know how to deal with the source of that thing popping up, you know we need to take it to the IT doctor. In the end, those viruses will have to be dealt with.

What do those pop-up viruses look like? (Other than the physical viruses that are transmitted sexually?

They’ll look like INSECURITY- because what security is there in a physical act that’s not associated with a committed relationship?

They’ll look like CONFUSION- because we thought that getting the Sex app meant it came with a feature called “Love” but we can’t find love in a physical experience.

They’ll look like FEAR- because fear of rejection likes to pop up when settings were saved in your value system that aren’t erased by downloading the newest imitation “acceptance” sex tries to offer.

They’ll look like LONELINESS- because your worth somehow got mixed up with your ability to perform for a man/woman who ended up getting an upgrade and leaving you in the dust.

See what the manufacturers forget to tell you when you settle for the app and don’t use the real deal?

The application that actually needs to be downloaded into the hard drive of your heart is one called “Purity”. Apply purity to the sexual area of your life and you’ll enjoy life a whole lot more. Purity doesn’t expire once you become married but it gets an upgrade. It means that you’ve already set it up as part of your operating system so it’s more likely to function within the framework of your marriage. Sexual purity within marriage installs a firewall against adultery and cheating. Purity guarantees that there will be a reward for your sacrifice.
Not only are we sexual beings but we are spiritual beings. There’s an element of the sexual desire that can be tethered from a source other than your own – it’s in the room but it’s not within you. It’s within the atmosphere. It’s spiritual.  Your senses pick it up when you come into contact with another person.  (This is something I’ll go into more detail about in my book.)

How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word. Psalms 119:9

This may seem like an unattainable goal but so does losing 80kgs when you weigh 160kgs like my cousin did. How does a person with that much weight to lose achieve such success- they take one day at a time.
Today, read the word and apply what you learn to your daily life. It’s good soul food and it’s living water. It helps you to renew your mind so your body stays pure. Feed your spirit instead of gratifying your flesh and the bible promises that “you will not fulfill the lusts of the flesh”…

So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want.  Galatians 5:16-17

Like you would get the newest and best apparatus to download your “Sex app,” so too is there a better mode for operating the “Sex act”. Marriage doesn’t just play an important role in providing safety in displaying vulnerable intimacy but it proves to be the best way to experience sex. Don’t settle for second best.  Don’t get ripped off from having sex the way it was designed to be.  It’s actually not too late to start again.

Get Purity.  Walk in the Spirit. You can do it!



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