Isaiah 61:3 (NLT) To all who mourn in Israel, he will give a crown of beauty for ashes, a joyous blessing instead of mourning, festive praise instead of despair. In their righteousness, they will be like great oaks that the LORD has planted for his own glory.
“What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?” Romans 8:31 NIV
Romans 8 is a great chapter in the Bible when it comes to being reminded that Jesus is in your corner. He loves you, He’s for you and He is working on your behalf, are the messages that are woven through this literary piece.
But you’re not in Rome and you’re not convinced that this is for you. Maybe? Perhaps the circumstances around you indicate that God is working against you because nothing seems to be going your way!
Well guess what? Your way, isn’t always the best way. His way is. Always.
““As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” Isaiah 55:9 NIV
Sounds like some hard truth but it is buffered by some “ridiculous grace” as Tauren Wells would say. The beautiful grace message is that even though our ways aren’t being activated, the result of His ways are always life giving, surprising and amazing.
Rest in knowing that what’s happening around you is not because God is against you but it’s because He is FOR you! He’s working it all out for your good! You might not understand what’s going on right now, but trust me, when you see the bigger picture, you’ll be glad you let Him have His way. He’s so trustworthy.
Dear Jesus, we thank you that you are on our side. Thank you that even though I can’t fully comprehend all that’s going on right now, I can trust that you do. Please help me to focus on You in this season and not on the circumstances around me. Allow me to know your grace for me in this season as I continue to submit to you. In Jesus name we pray, Amen
“Then he got into the boat and his disciples followed him. Suddenly a furious storm came up on the lake, so that the waves swept over the boat. But Jesus was sleeping. The disciples went and woke him, saying, “Lord, save us! We’re going to drown!” He replied, “You of little faith, why are you so afraid?” Then he got up and rebuked the winds and the waves, and it was completely calm. The men were amazed and asked, “What kind of man is this? Even the winds and the waves obey him!”” Matthew 8:23-27 NIV
When you give Jesus your Broken Heart, essentially, you’re following Him onto a boat, giving Him permission to be the Captain of your Ship and letting Him steer you into your designed destiny.
Just because He is in the boat with you, however, doesn’t exempt you from encountering some storms on the journey. Like the disciples, when you face these storms, it came seem like God is absent. It may seem like His silence is an apathetic attitude to your dilemma. But there’s something we can learn from this little adventure on the boat with the twelve.
While reading this text recently, I was on Team Jesus with his response to the disciples call for help. “Oh you of little faith!” It’s easy to say when you’re outside looking in but when you’re in the boat, it’s such an easy cry to make.
The storm is furious, the waves are coming in the boat, so the boat must be swaying back and forth- seemingly threatening their safety and lives. But one thing was guaranteeing them that they would reach the shore alive and He was sleeping in the gallows.
Jesus didn’t come to die on a boat. He wasn’t about to have His life cut short because some wind and waves were coming at Him. He created the wind systems and formed the waters in the sea- they were never going to have authority over His destiny. He displayed His authority and shocked them all but that was even unnecessary. His very presence in the boat, spoke volumes to the waves and wind before He even opened His mouth.
And so it is with your life. Jesus has a destiny for you that He is committed to. He’s got promises stored up for you and He is the greatest promise keeper. With Him in the boat of your life, you don’t need to be afraid when things start to overwhelm you. You don’t have to fear that your life, your promises, your destiny are not going to be reached. You’re going to get there because Jesus is in You and He is with You and He has authority over everything that is trying to assail you.
When we understand the Sovereignty of God in our lives, then peace will replace fear.
“God is not human, that he should lie, not a human being, that he should change his mind. Does he speak and then not act? Does he promise and not fulfill?” Numbers 23:19 NIV
There’s freedom in knowing that God is in control. Why? Because then we don’t feel like we have to control everything. If He said He was going to do something, you can be assured He will do it! Don’t let the circumstances, the storms, your emotions or your pride, try to dictate your confidence in your future. He said that He knows the plans He has for you- plans to give you a hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11)
You’re life is not over yet. The fact that you’re still living, means that God hasn’t finished with you yet. And when He’s not done, you don’t need to fear losing your life because He is more about completing the thing He started in your life than you are. Keep going!
Dear Jesus, thank you for being the Captain of my Ship. Thank you that there is safety, security and peace when you are involved in my life. I know that your promises for my life will come about so I trust you to bring them to me. As I wait, help me to navigate the storms with a peace in my heart that glorifies your name. You are the Prince of Peace so I choose to submit to you. I love you Jesus. In Jesus name, Amen
“For jealousy arouses a husband’s fury, and he will show no mercy when he takes revenge.” Proverbs 6:34 NIV
It’s probably a wife or husbands biggest fear (if fear plays a part in their marriage), and the greatest nightmare of anyone who has been affected by an extra-marital affair. Not only does it affect and break the heart of the spouse involved but the children, extended families and then the community.
We all know from celebrity affairs how much respect is lost for someone when they break their vow and sleep with another person. It puts a taint on their name that is often irrevocable. But with God, shame is always irrevocable and that’s why I share my story.
My story of being affected by infidelity goes back 15 years to just after my fourth child was born and I was a 25 year old, zealous youth leader in our church. I was a different person back then and so were the people involved. I was still insecure and had low self-esteem in regards to my body image and looks- and that was BEFORE social media!
I add all that to say, that when I found out my husband at that time had slept with another woman who I considered a friend, my self-esteem could have been shattered and my self-worth destroyed. But I can honestly say that I gave Jesus my broken heart.
Any default setting I previously had of running to smokes, or drinks or even food, for comfort all went out the window and I sought my comfort in the Lord and what He showed me at that time.
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.” Psalm 139:14-16 NIV
This became my meditation. These verses answered questions in my soul that wanted to bring justice to an unjust situation. Even thought the circumstances around me still didn’t make sense, the storm that raged within me was starting to settle.
Jesus was reminding me that I was fearfully and wonderfully made. That even the flaws in my physical features were a part of His design. That He thought I was beautiful even though this act had sent me a different message. I was enough for Him, even though the lie of the affair was that I wasn’t enough for my husband, and that brought satisfaction to me.
He also reminded me that He knew that this was going to happen before I was even born. That it was numbered among the days I would live. While that could have made me angry that it shouldn’t have been that way, it actually gave me a sense of peace, in avoiding the “shoulda, woulda, coulda” thoughts that wanted to invade my mind.
If a loving God, who knew my heart and saw my husband cheating on me the day it happened, when I only found out 6 months later, was in control, then I knew I could trust Him with the next six months.
While I wanted everyone to hate and reject the people involved, Jesus reminded me that He too was rejected and betrayed by the very people He kept close to Him. I not only found comfort in that, but I respected and loved Him for it even more. He was sinless, full of love and always blessing His disciples and they still cheated Him. I was a young, insecure, angry, sin filled woman so I had no reason not to forgive, when I had been forgiven.
“Forgiveness gives up my right to hurt you for hurting me.” “Forgiveness releases my responsibility to judge that person for hurting me.” In this season, new pathways of forgiveness are forged. Jesus is the giver of forgiveness. We have to receive it freely in order to be able to give it.
I chose to stay in that marriage and forgive and birthed a beautiful boy the following year. I wouldn’t say that every woman should stay and that that is the noble thing to do. Every situation is different. But whatever you choose, choose to Give Him your Broken Heart and He will give you an ability to forgive like you’ve never forgiven before.
In Jesus name.
Faithful God, thank you for your grace and for your mercy. Thank you for loving us unconditionally through our heart ache and pain. Thank you that there is no circumstance that we can face that you are unacquainted with. You’re our great High priest so we come to your throne room and find mercy and strength in our time of need. Help us to forgive when we don’t have it in us. Thank you for forgiving us for all we have done too. In Jesus name, Amen
I waited patiently for the Lord; He turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; He set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear the Lord and put their trust in Him.
It was about three years ago that my heart started to shatter into pieces. The man I had been in relationship with for almost 21 years at that point, told me he didn’t want to be with me anymore…that he fantasised about being single and dreamt that we weren’t together…almost every day.
It was January 2016 in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia, where we had served as missionaries for over four years at that point. Those last three years had been rocky but my hope was that things were going to change for the better…and they did…but not in the way that I had planned. He left us the following month and I found myself on my knees like never before.
Through that time, worship became my therapy. Listening to songs that ministered to my heart and spoke exactly to my situation, allowed me to carry on with life. I had four children in my care I had to be present for. I had work and ministry to do as well as home-schooling. Life was so much different then to how it is now, and I know that I only got from there to here because of a God who held me through it.
Maybe you’re in that place where your heart is broken and your mind is confused.
I’ve been there. I’ve been deep in that valley.
But I’ve come out.
Some days I feel like I’m standing on a mountain top so high that I can look back and see how far I’ve come and end up in tears. Jesus just blows my mind.
He is faithful and He heals hearts. He pulls us back together when we feel like we’re too far unravelled that we’ve just left a chaotic mess. His love is what does that.
My church, that has played a big part in my healing and recovery process, recently released a song that depicts that journey that He brought me through. I share it today in hope that it ministers to your heart and the heart of those you get to share it with. Be blessed as you meditate on the words and as you encounter His Spirit in the process. Love you!
““Are you weary, carrying a heavy burden? Then come to me. I will refresh your life, for I am your oasis. Simply join your life with mine. Learn my ways and you’ll discover that I’m gentle, humble, easy to please. You will find refreshment and rest in me.” Matthew 11:28-29 TPT
Jesus invites you to come and bring your burdens to Him because He knows what you can carry and what you can’t. The thing is that we aren’t designed to carry the responsibility of everyone and everything on our shoulders. When we do, our life will get out of alignment like our bodies do when we carry too much weight for an extended amount of time:
Our health gets depleted
Simple things become overwhelming
Jesus offers us rest, not just physically but mentally and spiritually. Resting in Him means that we allow Him to work on our behalf. It demands that we increase our trust in His Sovereignty and decrease our self-dependence and reliance.
Carrying the extra burdens that are associated with the broken, fallen world that we are surrounded by, will inherently bring us down. Jesus wants to lift us up. He wants to give us an Oasis in Him,
Maybe today your burden is a result of you taking on the responsibility of another person. Trust that God is working in their lives as much as He is working in yours. Let them take responsibility of their own decisions. You empower them in that place as you allow them to go through what they need to go through in order to see the consequences of their actions.
Rest in Jesus and He will sustain you. He will be your recovery.
I thank you that you are in control of every situation and that you offer me rest from getting involved with them all. I trust you. Even though what I see, breaks my heart- I know that all things work together for good to those who love you. I love you Jesus. Give me rest in my mind and in my heart as I lay these burdens at your feet: