How you can turn an External Pandemic into an Internal Rite of Passage

Its really hard to be an optimist in times like these- when the whole world is on HOLD while a deadly virus is slowly losing its grip on humanity. But what if the humanity that exists in you has the opportunity in this time to eradicate the diseases that have lingered in your life for too long. I’m not talking about medical diseases…but diseases of the heart- distortions in the way you think, believe and act.

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As I searched for words for the message I wanted to convey in this blog (a blog I wrote last year when I was going through my own transition) I wanted a description that would hold the weight of its magnitude.

To the degree that this pandemic is spreading around the globe right now, is the opportunity for an extreme makeover to happen in your heart. Its PANDEMIC. Its for all and its universal. Only within the space of such a drastic upheaval of all that we have known before, can we reestablish something new.

Dictionary.com describes “Rites of passage” as ceremonies that mark important transitional periods that “usually involve ritual activities and teachings designed to strip individuals of their original roles and prepare them for new roles.

Lets face it. The world has just been stripped of a lot of our “freedoms” that we naturally take for granted.

The freedom to breathe,

to congregate,

to drive,

to eat out,

to learn in a classroom,

to leave our kids in care,

to go to work,

to marry and to grieve in the presence of loved ones.

What its going to do in the process, whether you like it or not, is strip you of elements of your life that you have attached to your identity, and potentially result in an exasperation of your addictions.

Addictions are often our default when our identity is not secure. Addictions come about to regulate our emotions when we can’t manage them, giving us temporary comfort from unhealthy triggers. So what I want to do this week, is to talk about identity and help you to navigate any unexpected “stripping” of old roles (roles you have played in society, in your family or your workplace) so that you can create pathways for the new “roles” you’re about to take on.

In Australia, traditional custodians of the land, have had a Rite of Passage we know as the “Walkabout”. This is where a young boy (traditionally from the age of 10-16) goes on a walk by himself into the wilderness for a period of up to six months. Here he establishes his manhood and familiarises himself with an independent lifestyle in which he becomes spiritually and emotionally aware.

Even though there might not be a ceremony or a long journey a part from your family, this six month (or however long it may be) journey of self-isolation, could be your chance to journey into “adulthood” and emotional maturity. The feelings that arise in you as you become more introspective instead of socially involved, could just build the bridge for the internal Rite of Passage you never had- stripping you of all of your external support systems so that your inner world is strong.

When you’re struggling to just BE you, and the best version of YOU, my prayer is that this blog will allow you sit comfortably in your own skin and learn to dig deep into the crevices of your soul that still thirst for healing and wholeness.

Get ready.

Part 1 is coming tomorrow: Stay Home and Be at Home with You.


If you only knew!

“For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭2:8-10‬ ‭NIV‬‬

If you only knew
How much God has in store for you. How much He wants to do through you- despite your broken heart; despite your messy past and your mishaps and failures and what nots.

Before you were even born, God had a plan for your life. It wasn’t conditional on you being “good.” He’s not Santa, making a list and checking it twice- trying to find out who’s naughty and nice. He promises to deliver on His promises anyway!!

God is always working where we do not see. He’s always doing something on your behalf to set you up for something great. When He says He will do something, be assured that He will do it.

Your own dreams and aspirations to do something good and noble, something prosperous and positive, something beneficial to the community or just to your family- He was a part of putting those desires in you. And when He puts an idea in your head, He will guide you into making it become a reality.

for it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose.”
‭‭Philippians‬ ‭2:13‬ ‭NIV‬‬

He is the best dream giver. The best dreams you have- when they’re not about selfish ambition or causing harm to others, they’re His dreams for you.

When you’re exceptionally good at something- that thing that you find easy but all your friends marvel at your ability to do it- that’s His grace on your life to do it. It’s a part of you fulfilling your dream. It came in the package called You and it’s a gift to the world.

If you only knew. What a gift to the world you are. Don’t keep that gift unwrapped under the Christmas tree anymore. Don’t let the package of your life be all that people get to see. Let them see the good thing that God has put in YOU and only you to do in this world.

Me, ten years ago, as a 30 year old, stepping out into the great unknown and making the dream I had as 6 year old of mine a reality. That trip changed my life forever

Beware of no man more than of yourself; we carry our worst enemies within us. Charles Spurgeon.

Don’t let yourself or your insecurity get in the way of what God wants to take you into in this next season. He’s been working on putting all the things in place for you to be successful at it since you gave your heart to Him, if not, before.

Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.””
‭‭Joshua‬ ‭1:9‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Let’s pray.

Dear Jesus, thank you that you gave me life and new life in you. Thank you that you have a plan for me to do good things on this earth in the short time I get to live here. Please show me your will for my life and give me the courage I need to go forward in it. You’re the great I am. Help me like Moses, to do what you have called me to do- to step out in faith and obedience and know that many many people will live better lives because you have used me to set them free. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.


When you give Jesus your broken heart Day 2

“You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭4:22-24‬ ‭NIV‬‬

A new person is birthed in you when you receive Jesus or even as you come to a new level in Him as a born again believer. However, there still remains a memory of who you were before and that can often confuse your soul into thinking that you are still the same. 

If we look at the life cycle of a butterfly again, research has shown that even a butterfly has a memory of its behaviour when it was a caterpillar. Even though it has obviously undergone huge transformation, the memories of the past will continue to draw it back into old default patterns. 

So the same is for us. However, the Bible gives us some instruction in how to continue to live as a new person once that transformation work has happened in your life. Take this example from Paul’s letter to the Corinthians- a church that was really struggling to decipher between who they were before and who they needed to become:

““I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but not everything is constructive.”
‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭10:23‬ ‭NIV‬‬

I was thinking about this today as I was boarding my plane. It illustrates the whole process of crossing over into this new life you’ve been given:

When we board a plane to go overseas, there is a point in the airport where you have to leave behind certain items. Items that might cause a threat on your travels, materials that might carry diseases into new territory, or drugs that are illegal in other continents. 

Even though the land you’re coming FROM might have accepted these items as useful and permissible, the new land you’re going TO demands that you rid yourself of the things that the government of that land doesn’t deem lawful (for whatever reason that might be.) 

Even though it is hard to let things go and leave them behind, if you fully embrace the life that is waiting for you in the new land, you’ll find that you won’t need those things you left behind for very long.

Perhaps the thing that you’re doing isn’t necessarily destroying your life-your addiction, your unhealthy relationship, or your illustrious spending. Maybe, that thing is just the thing that you are using to medicate what’s going on inside, which is what’s ultimately destroying your life. Things like bitterness and hurt, unforgiveness and undealt with trauma.

No matter how that pain was caused, Jesus wants to heal our broken hearts. He saw it all, was broken for you and knows the person you were before that happened. But He can’t do a work in our hearts as long as we are medicating it with a counterfeit solution. 

In order for Him to do a full, complete work, we have to surrender all of our self-diagnosing, self-medicating, self-sabotaging ways. 

Though we may think we need to take those things into the new life with us, if we trust Him completely, He will show us that we don’t. How does He do that? By becoming every thing that we need. 

Jesus is a trustworthy friend. We can trust Him with our secrets and we can trust Him with our hearts. Do you trust Him enough to let go of the things He is asking you to let go of this year? You know what they are. If you don’t, someone close to you might be able to give you a clue. 

Let’s pray. 

Jesus, thank you that you love me. Thank you that you see my broken heart and you see the way that I’ve tried to fix it. Give me the strength I need to let go of those things that are getting in the way of your truth. Help me to stop self-medicating and to step out in new levels of trust in you. Thank you for being trustworthy. Thank you for being my friend. In Jesus name, Amen.